dating
strangely! i was just talking about this particular book this morning. and when i checked my hotmail, i saw an email from my mom with all the chapters of the book typed out in little word documents for easy reference. it may seem a little disjointed, cos i tried to extract the essentials of the first 2 chapters, for your reading pleasure :)
An intimate relationship is a beautiful experience that God wants us to enjoy. After all, He stated that it wasn’t good for man to be alone and created the woman to perfectly complement him and help him (Genesis 2:18). But God has made the fulfillment of intimacy a by-product of commitment-based love. If we want to experience the goodness of His plan, we need to reconnect the pursuit of intimacy with the pursuit of commitment. This is what I call the Little Relationship Principle:
The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment.
All of us want intimacy. It means being close to someone. It’s being vulnerable, open, and dependent. It’s giving to and receiving from another person the deepest parts of who we are—our hopes, our fears, our secrets, our affections. An intimacy relationship in which we know and are known by another human is one of the most fulfilling and precious parts of life ¨it’s a gift from God.
You might say that intimacy between a man and a woman is the icing on the cake of a relationship headed toward marriage. And if we look at intimacy that way, then it becomes obvious that most of our dating relationships are all icing. They usually lack a purpose or a clear destination. In most cases, especially when we’re younger, dating is short term, serving the needs of the moment. We date because we want to enjoy the emotional and physical benefits of intimacy without the responsibility of real commitment.
An intimate relationship is a beautiful experience that God wants us to enjoy. After all, He stated that it wasn’t good for man to be alone and created the woman to perfectly complement him and help him (Genesis 2:18). But God has made the fulfillment of intimacy a by-product of commitment-based love. If we want to experience the goodness of His plan, we need to reconnect the pursuit of intimacy with the pursuit of commitment. This is what I call the Little Relationship Principle:
The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment.
All of us want intimacy. It means being close to someone. It’s being vulnerable, open, and dependent. It’s giving to and receiving from another person the deepest parts of who we are—our hopes, our fears, our secrets, our affections. An intimacy relationship in which we know and are known by another human is one of the most fulfilling and precious parts of life ¨it’s a gift from God.
You might say that intimacy between a man and a woman is the icing on the cake of a relationship headed toward marriage. And if we look at intimacy that way, then it becomes obvious that most of our dating relationships are all icing. They usually lack a purpose or a clear destination. In most cases, especially when we’re younger, dating is short term, serving the needs of the moment. We date because we want to enjoy the emotional and physical benefits of intimacy without the responsibility of real commitment.
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